Right Now - March 20, 2018

I've been up since 3 am. I had a terrible dream about things I did not wish to dream about and no matter how hard I tried, I could not fall back asleep. 

So I got up, snuggled with my kitties, and decided to get some work done. Here are some updates on my life/work/travels:

Traveling to--reading--listening to--working on. What are you up to? I want to know how life is going in your little slice of the world!

Word of the Year: AND

I've never given much thought to having a "word of the year." It has always seemed somewhat pointless to try to model an entire 12 months around one word. 

I understand that it is meant to embody a feeling, or an overarching tone that you want to live your life in alignment with.

Goals, with detailed plans to get me from here to there, have always been my preference. 

But with those goals -- meet X income goal, restructure business model, lose 10 more lbs. -- has always come an all or nothing mindset.

On Shame and Fear and Writing Anyway

So while I know, logically, that it is safe for me to write, on a molecular level I'm still holding onto that energy from my teenage years that says "Your words will be used against you. They will turn on you. You cannot write this."

And so I think that acknowledging this and how painful it is to hold the one thing I've loved my whole life at arm's length is kind of a breakthrough. 

1 Simple Trick for Knowing When to Set Boundaries

Friends often joke that I could get paid to set boundaries for other people. 

Whether it's figuring out how to address a freelance client who has gone way, way out of scope or letting my (now ex, thank god) mother-in-law know when it's time to back off, I've gotten pretty damn good at drawing lines around my self. 

I know it's not that easy for everyone, though.

It's not just setting boundaries that can be hard. Even knowing when you should set one can be confusing. 

Am I being too sensitive? <---- one of the main questions I hear when people are questioning if they should set a boundary.

I promise it doesn't have to be hard. 

To the Writers Who Think They Have Nothing to Say

You have everything to say. You have heartbreak and triumph, both present in your smile. You have lived an extraordinary life -- even if your life, in comparison to others, feels small. You have moved mountains and boxes, made houses feel like homes. You have held hands and space. You have built friendships and broken down walls. And even if you don't believe you have done any of these things (I promise you have, in your own way), you have an entire brilliant, complex world living inside of you. 

My Advice to Those Who Want to Be Successful Freelancers

The Freelancing in America: 2017 Survey done by Upwork and Freelancers Union found that almost 50% of millennials already freelance and the majority of the U.S. workforce will be made up of freelancers by the year 2027. Crazy, right?

It's a good thing: it means there is a market for freelancers of all kinds -- from writers to web developers to photographers to models, companies are interested. 

But this should also make you pause and ask how bad do I want it?