So while I know, logically, that it is safe for me to write, on a molecular level I'm still holding onto that energy from my teenage years that says "Your words will be used against you. They will turn on you. You cannot write this."
And so I think that acknowledging this and how painful it is to hold the one thing I've loved my whole life at arm's length is kind of a breakthrough.
Friends often joke that I could get paid to set boundaries for other people.
Whether it's figuring out how to address a freelance client who has gone way, way out of scope or letting my (now ex, thank god) mother-in-law know when it's time to back off, I've gotten pretty damn good at drawing lines around my self.
I know it's not that easy for everyone, though.
It's not just setting boundaries that can be hard. Even knowing when you should set one can be confusing.
Am I being too sensitive? <---- one of the main questions I hear when people are questioning if they should set a boundary.
I promise it doesn't have to be hard.
You have everything to say. You have heartbreak and triumph, both present in your smile. You have lived an extraordinary life -- even if your life, in comparison to others, feels small. You have moved mountains and boxes, made houses feel like homes. You have held hands and space. You have built friendships and broken down walls. And even if you don't believe you have done any of these things (I promise you have, in your own way), you have an entire brilliant, complex world living inside of you.
The Freelancing in America: 2017 Survey done by Upwork and Freelancers Union found that almost 50% of millennials already freelance and the majority of the U.S. workforce will be made up of freelancers by the year 2027. Crazy, right?
It's a good thing: it means there is a market for freelancers of all kinds -- from writers to web developers to photographers to models, companies are interested.
But this should also make you pause and ask how bad do I want it?
It has been the best Christmas Eve in awhile, so I'm happy that we decided to buck traditions that didn't really bring us joy and do our own thing instead.